Author: town gist

I have been married for four years now. I have a child who isn’t for my husband. No, I didn’t bring the child to the marriage. I had it while married to my husband. I know you’ll like to know what happened, so here we go. It all started a year after our marriage. My husband would leave the house for work and return three days later. If I asked where he went, he would ignore me. Sometimes he would return at 1:00 AM, take a shower, and leave the house again. Where he went, I never know. He didn’t…

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I am a 24 year old girl and I need some important advice. I come from a very poor home. My parents were very poor and we could hardly make ends meet. Most of us stopped schooling in secondary school because our parents couldn’t afford to send us to university and pay our fees. We were five children, some of us lived with people but I and my younger sister were the only ones living with our parents. We took part in so many things in order to make money. We helped our parents on the farm and sometimes we…

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I have been out of the dating game for three years. I don’t know if that’s long enough but to me, it’s the longest time I’ve ever been out. Growing up. I thought a girl was created to be loved. If you asked me what I was going to do in the near future, I would have told you a lot of things and then end with. “When I’m twenty-three. I will Find a man who will love me the way a good man would love his woman. We won’t date for so long because I would love to settle…

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Right from the beginning, my mother wanted me to marry a certain man because of his money. I told her politely, “I can’t marry this man. I don’t love him and I don’t see myself marrying someone I don’t love. Again, he’s way older than I am. I can’t marry him.” She insisted. She did all within her power to make me settle with that man but I didn’t succumb to her pressure. When the time was right, I introduced the one I wanted to marry to her and that was when the issue started. She said no to us.…

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I only was trying to help my husband. I did not mean any harm or disrespect. We started having issues with our s3x life 3 years ago. Its not as if my husband was a s3x machine but he was not doing badly with s3xual performance either. However, three years ago, his libido seemed to drop significantly. I didn’t complain initially but when I started suspecting maybe he was seeing another woman and so didn’t have enough stamina, I became really worried. I told him several times that I was not happy that his performance was dropping but instead of…

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Please keep me anonymous. I need advice from you and your readers. I am in a big fix as I write to you. My husband has seized my kids and thrown me out of the house. I am a mother of three. My kids are still very young and the oldest is just nine years old. What worries me so much is that they cannot take care of themselves and my husband sucks at caring for himself not to talk about taking care of three small children. I won’t claim that our marriage has been the best so far but…

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I have just been managing with this man and with the current situation of things, I do not think I can continue to stay in this marriage with him. We have been married for five years with absolutely nothing to show for it. My husband and I have just a child, times have been very hard and no matter how much I try to make things better, it almost keeps getting worse. Before he married me, I was doing very well. I had a business of my own with many workers, I was earning well and taking good care of…

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Being in love with your spouse necessarily mean you should also love their family. Some daughters in law are usually not seeing with same eye with their mothers in law. Hatred can cause evil thoughts to regret. It was the 24th of November when Nono’s child, Owethu came back from school very hungry. Apparently she got home and found her grandmother (Gogo Ngubane) only who then offered her some food which was prepared by Nono for Gogo Ngubane. However she couldn’t let her granddaughter to suffer from hunger whereas she had food to give her. Later on, the child started…

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Yesterday’s story about the girl who got married at 34 though people thought she was ugly brought back memories of my own struggle in life as a man who people think I’m not good looking. The first person who drew my attention to my unfavorable looks is my own mother. Anytime I did something wrong, he’ll look at my face and give me an insult that befits my face; “Look at his ugly face.” Your dark lips like someone who had been smoking for ages.” Her favorite line of insult; “I pity the woman who will choose you as a…

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Janice and I went to the same senior high school. We were not friends when we were in senior high. On my first day at the university, I saw her. She called me by name and I was surprised. “You know my name?” I asked with a dint of surprise. She answered, “Who doesn’t know your name? You were popular in school, remember?” We had lunch together that day. We went about searching for things together. We were in a new compound that needed searching before you know. As fate would have it, we were placed in the same hall—the…

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