I am unsure about what to do. My partner and I have been together for two years. Initially, we both agreed on wanting children. I mentioned that I wanted to wait for 2-3 years, one year into our relationship. Surprisingly, my partner proposed to me a few months after that conversation.
However, it seems that we now have different views on this matter. My partner wants to have children as soon as possible, while I still feel unprepared.
I have clearly explained that certain aspects of our relationship need improvement before we can start a family and build a solid foundation. Additionally, I have plans to go back to school for two years. These are the main reasons for my desire to wait. Unfortunately, my partner believes I am using these reasons as excuses to delay having children because it’s not a priority for me.
I asked him why he suddenly feels like he can’t wait, especially when he knew I wanted to wait. He explained that turning 40 has made him feel an urgent need for children. He also mentioned that his parents are getting older, and he cannot wait for another 2 years.
These conflicts have deeply hurt me and have made me even more hesitant about having children. Our relationship has reached a point where we can’t find a solution. It’s disheartening because we both want children, but my partner feels he can’t wait for 2 years.
While I understand his perspective, I don’t believe it’s fair to put such pressure on me. Is it fair?
