It’s common to see parents kicking their children out of the house, but have you ever heard of children asking their parents to get out? A Redditor, AITA_kick_father_co, posted that he had to ask his parents to leave the house because they were insulting his children. Did he do the right thing? Let’s find out!
Children in the U.S. are usually encouraged to leave home and live an independent life after they turn 18. Not only does it help them become confident, but they also learn how to be responsible while staying away from home. But in some cases, children do not move out of their parent’s house and live with them even after getting married.
On the other hand, if we look at the older people in the U.S., most of them live alone or with their spouses. Only 15% of people in the U.S. who are older than 60 years live with their children. One of the reasons most older adults live on their own is that the government offers them financial support. In other countries, it’s more common for older people to live with their adult children or extended family.
When old parents live with their adult children and grandchildren, there is a high chance of stirring up misunderstandings and unwanted arguments because of the generation gap. The newer generation does not think like the old one. They have different beliefs, opinions, and ways of doing things.
A Redditor found himself in a similar situation. He had to kick his parents out of the house because of their unacceptable behavior. The man later felt guilty, so he turned to the online community and asked them if he had done the right thing. Other Redditors flooded his post with their opinions.
Man kicked his parents out of the house
Man kicked his parents out of the house:
AITA for kicking my parents out of my house due to mean comments towards my son about his personality
I (41m) have two kids. “Marcus” (16m) and “Maria” (15f). Marcus is quite quiet, introverted and likes to do art and enjoys volunteering at charity events with advertising by creating posters and doing some work. Maria has much more active hobbies such as mixed martial arts and likes shooting at gun ranges. Maria also has endometriosis and Marcus has taken on almost a motherly role when she is in pain at some times. My father (65m) and mother (66f) asked if they could move in with us at the start of the pandemic due to the fact they are higher risk individuals. My father and I had a rough relationship when I was younger because he always believed in hard love so he doesn’t know much about Marcus and Maria.
They would both always comment(to me) about their behaviors and hobbies with comments such as “He’s not very manly” or “that’s not very ladylike” and other such comments. I have expressed my dislike towards them but he has pestered and I allowed him to as I wouldn’t be able to change his beliefs and it did anger me but I learned to deal with it. Earlier today I ran into a problem at work and had to stay a bit later so my parents cooked for Marcus and Maria. When I came home Maria and Marcus were both quite visibly upset so I asked them what was wrong. They said that they had told Maria to just suck it up while she was in pain and told Marcus that he needed to stop being a weak or he would be a useless man when he grew up. At this I saw red and told my parents to get out, they obviously put up protest but they left.
They called me and left numerous voice mails about how I wouldn’t care if they were to get sick. Now that I have had some time to rethink my actions I think I’m an asshole because I should have tried and explaining my issues with their comments again instead of doing something like kicking them out in the spur of the moment so AITA? Other info: they don’t pay rent or bills and I divorced their mother and got full custody
r/AmItheAssholeAITA_kick_father_co1y ago
15034 points928 comments
The 41-year-old father of two kids revealed that his parents asked to move in with them, and he agreed. They started living with the Redditor, his daughter Maria and son Marcus, and they observed the kids and their activities with keen interest. The Redditor’s parents then began commenting that his 16-year-old son was not manly and his 15-year-old daughter was not ladylike. The Redditor expressed his dislike on these comments, but that didn’t help.
The Redditor also mentioned that Maria has endometriosis and has to go through episodes of stabbing pelvic pain. When this happens, her brother takes the motherly role and tries to calm her down as much as possible. One day, the father couldn’t get home on time, so his parents looked after the children.
When the man returned home, he noticed that his children were upset about something. He asked his children what was bothering them, and they opened up about the mean comments they received from their grandparents. The Redditor wrote:
“They said that they had told Maria to just suck it up while she was in pain and told Marcus that he needed to stop being a weak or he would be a useless man when he grew up”
Hearing these words made the man lose his temper. He immediately confronted his parents and told them to leave the house. At first, they made a fuss but later moved out of the Redditor’s house. After going back to their house, they left messages on the voicemail, making their son feel guilty about what he had done.
He asked other Redditors if he had done the right thing, and most of them supported his decision. They said that his kids are his priority, and standing up for them is the best thing he could do as a father. Some of them also shared how painful it is to suffer from endometriosis, and watching her grandparents asking her to “suck it up” must have been so traumatic for the girl. What do you think? Was it right for the man to kick his parents out?
“I plan to kick my parents out of the house”
WIBTA if I kicked my parents out of my property?
I [43] have a difficult/complicated relationship with my mother [61] and my father [65] who don’t really agree with my choice of profession. My profession, while disagreeable to some, makes me a good amount of money, allowing me to basically take care of both of my siblings [17] & [18] education and living situation.
I pay for everything in the house that my parents and my siblings share, (I live separately from them.) Now, every time I do drop by to check on my siblings my parents continuously rag on my job or show disapproval about my choices. It feels frustrating to work hard to support both my parents as well while they don’t appreciate it at all.
So I plan on cutting them off of my money and kicking them out once my two siblings go off to college. They have a retirement fund but would essentially need to search for some other place to live, I would give ample time for them to look so it wouldn’t be like putting them on the streets.
I just see no point in supporting my parents who don’t appreciate the time or energy I put into giving them a easy lifestyle.
Would I be the asshole?
r/AmItheAssholewhat-do-i-do-aita3y ago
1667 points423 comments
Another Redditor, what-do-i-do-aita, shared what was going on in his life. He shares a complicated relationship with his parents who are in their sixties. They don’t like his profession, while the Redditor is happy with what he does since it gives him enough money to support his siblings’ education and care for his parents.
His parents and siblings live in the same house, and the Redditor pays for all the expenses. He often visits their home, but his parents always make him feel bad about his job. They never appreciate his profession despite knowing that he pays for all their expenses.
Unable to take his parents’ rude behavior any longer, the man decide to kick them out of the house once his siblings started college. He won’t support them financially since they never appreciate him for what he does for them. He also mentioned that his parents have a retirement fund, but they will need time to look for another place to live. The Redditor asked other users if he did the right thing, and the most upvoted comment read:
Another user suggested that he tell his parents he’s quitting his job because they think it’s not good. He should also tell them that he will no longer support them because of a significant pay cut. Their reaction after hearing this would be hilarious. They would surely ask their son not to quit his job.
Parents living with adult children
When parents start living with adult children, it’s best to set some house rules to avoid arguments and misunderstandings. There should be a clear guideline set for everything, including cooking meals, having guests over, and finance issues. Older parents often feel that their independence is compromised while living with their adult children. So, children need to make their parents feel at ease to avoid stirring up trouble.
Studies show that more than 77% of children agree that their parents become stubborn with age. It’s also true that aging parents become sensitive to criticism, and when their children try to explain something to them or correct them, they often take that negatively.
Older adults also dislike adult children with controlling habits. They don’t like being told what to do or how to do it. They also don’t like it when their children become overprotective and care for them way too much. Adult children should know where to draw the line when it comes to caring and being controlling. We’d love to see what you think about this topic. Your comments are appreciated!
