I know a lot of people would want to curse me or call me various terrible names because of what I am about to share but please, I beg you to be calm and understand my situation before you jump into conclusion. I am a 36 year old mother of five children, my husband is 40 and earns a meagre income as a cashier in a company.
His salary is not even enough to provide three square meals not to talk of paying school fees and rent. I used to have a job that enables me to support whatever he brings to the table but I lost the job after the establishment I was working with had financial problems and had to downsize. I was affected and since then, things have been very terrible for our family.
I decided to start a small business just in front of our house with the little money I got from my elder brother. I started selling provisions but the profit is so little and doesn’t do much. We have all been struggling and my family, especially kids, are looking very malnourished and poor. I have been looking for better jobs but nothing is forthcoming.
I finally got this heads up from my friend about a new company that’s hiring and she encouraged me to go. I didn’t take chances at all so I went. The job matches my qualifications and I had an idea on what to do because I already did that kind of job before. I passed the first phase of the interview which was conducted by a staff member.
The second phase was meant to be conducted by a senior partner in the firm and when it was my turn, I walked in only to see my ex boyfriend as the interviewer. We ended things in a rough way so I didn’t know what to do. To go straight to the point, he called me later and after several times of talking, he said the role I was applying for was competitive but he would let me have the job if I slept with him.
I felt bad that time but I have been thinking about it ever since then. I don’t know what to do. This job will change the life of my family completely. It is big money and will save us from poverty. I don’t know how to face this temptation. I begged him for another option but he wouldn’t even listen to me.
This guy is my ex and we have had sex before but ever since I got married, I have been a very faithful wife. I have never cheated on my husband and I have been very honest with him. Now, this request is something that I don’t know how to go about. Something tells me to forget about it but that will mean living in our current penury.
I look at my hungry children and I feel disappointed. I am hardworking but nothing seems to be working. If I decide to do as he requests, what if he continues to ask for more even after I get the job? I don’t know what to do. I am very confused and I need your help. Don’t insult me please, just advise me on that so that I will know what to do. I am at the crossroads currently.
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I want to speak to a God-fearing lady. It’s in the midst of life of struggle that God opens the great door to one’s destiny. God gave you a family, Satan wants to mess your union with God and family at your point of need.Ignore it,God is aware of the family He gave you.
As for me, I advise you not to give in to his demand, have faith in GOD and by his grace he shall see you through and gives a better options for greater opportunities ahead
Please don’t do because you will not be faithful to your Husband, the guy will continue to demand more and worse of all it’s against God’s law. Keep praying to God and you will be rewarded.
He will respect you if you refuse
Don’t you dare allow him to sleep with you. You will later regret it if you try it. Why not pray about it? Maybe you haven’t given your life to Jesus Christ yet. Do that quickly and pray to God to deliver you from the quagmire you are in.
Stay away from that temptation because such never ends well. Its either you don’t get the job after sleeping with him or he keeps coming back for more with blackmails. Either ways, its a revenge mission. Pray and God takes the lead.
Don’t do that God will hounor you and give you another better job if the supervisor decides to deny that job if you refuse to have Sex with him.God is faithful.
God has sustained you and has brought you this far. The devil is liar.Don’t soil yourself by giving in to this devil of a man. Trust God. He makes a way where there seems none. Be loyal and faithful to your hubby. God bless you.
Don’t do it, God will show you another way
That your ex boyfriend is a wicked person that has lost the fear of GOD
Don’t do it please.
Let him know that you will do the job to the best of your ability if given the opportunity but that shouldn’t come through adultery.
The job might not last forever but your status as an adulteress will follow you to the grave.
Every situation will change including your current situation if you hold on long enough with your integrity intact. You’ll win his admiration and your sense of self worth in the process. Not forgetting the reward from God who recompenses those that Obey Him.
Don’t give in for him. God will see you through.
If you hav been faithful to your husband remain that way,God also requires your faith pray to him and he will direct your path.if only you allow that to happen that ex boyfriend wo’nt stop asking for more and will cause more miserable to you
Sister, your future is in the hands of God. Give your life in to the hands of God. Pray and put your trust in God for a breakthrough, never allow this devil to defile you. We are supporting you in prayer.
As you have rightly thought so shall it be. He will sleep with you and might not give you the job as a means of revenge. OR he might likely give you the job and be demanding for more OR after giving you the job he might after sometime when he is tired of you relieve you of the job. MY CANDID ADVICE IS THAT YOU SHOULD TELL HIM THAT IF HE IS READY TO HELP HE SHOULD AND IF NOT HE AHIYKD FORGET ABOUT SLEEPING WITH YOU QED.
This is blackmail and blackmailers always come back for more. As hard as it seems right now to pass up the chance at a better life for your children if you do this you will find yourself in a situation where you lose the very thing you think you are saving.Don’t imagine that your husband won’t find out the devil is a sadistic sob and he will make sure he does.Just ask yourself what the worst scenario would be if you do agree to your ex’s demands and whether it’s something you can live with.
Madam your marriage is superior to anything you can ever imagine so respect its sanctity and never give in to the request of that your so called satanic ex.He wants to destroy your marriage.lf you attempt it, you are doomed.He will keep pestering you and even blackmail you to have his way whenever wherever he wants you.Besides nothing is hidden under the sun. lt must be revealed.Can stand the embarrassement and shame it will cause you,your children,husband,friends,family and the ridicule from the public? Therefore,that job is unsuitable for you.That is not the only company and job available in your country.A better job is on the way for you.Be patient.Give your life to GOD through JESUS CHRIST if you have not already done so and HE will surely provide a decent job for you.Wait on HIM.GOD bless you.
My dearest sister GOD is with you and he has sustained you for awhile now and he will continue to see you through until a big comfortable door is opened for your family.Your ex is an agent of Satan sent to terminate your integrity, family and finally leave you in the streams of quilt forever.Be wise now and save your home and your peace….I stand with you in prayer dear.
please don’t do it just pray and fast God will provide another job for you or touch his heart to help me
Please don’t do because you will not be faithful to your Husband, the guy will continue to demand more and worse of all it’s against God’s law. Keep praying to God and you will be rewarded.
In addition on other comments,now if he pregnants u in the process what are u going 2 do?finally when telling him that u cant give in 4 what has asked 4.Don’t go 2 him physically just call him and tell him kno 4 wat he asked 4 in exchange 4 a job. He can force himself on u and rape u.
Please don’t do it. God will give you a better job. I can assure you that when you allow Him, you have opened the floodgate and there will be no end as that was the condition for the job and not your qualification. Look unto Jesus and He alone will make all thing beautiful for you znd your family at the fullness of time. God bless you.
Please don’t do it. God will give you a better job. I can assure you that when you allow Him, you have opened the floodgate and there will be no end as that was the condition for the job and not your qualification. Look unto Jesus and He alone will make all thing beautiful for you znd your family at the fullness of time. God bless you.
My sister, what if the man did not give you the job after sleeping with you?God is trying to test your faith, don’t allow devil to use you. Remain steadfast and God in his infinite mercy will open doors of blessings for you soonest. People have really advised you. God bless all that have commented
In addition 2 other comments,now if he finds 2 pregnant u in the process what are u going 2 do?.when telling him your answer is know 4 what he asked in ex 4_a job.Don’t go 2_him physically he can force himself on u and rape u.delete his line and never call him again.
My sister be Faithfull and never be a tempted to wicked immoral fornication that might ruin your marriage. All of the luck of sturbation of feeding your kids of hungry remember that God would open door for you and your family pray God won’t forget you. I passed that problem for more 5years but now I say,anything blessing come from know where and my wife and children are well up.Be faithful and God will bless you
Hey sissy. Let me first thank you for seeking advice from this platform. God bless you. If all women where to think in this way, this world was not going to be the was it is. Now coming back to that, please don’t allow the devil to use you what is yours Is yours & if the said job is meant for you, then it shall be given unto you. Remain faithful and trust God almighty and not that destoyer.
That is a big temptation that will destroy you and your marriage.Go into your closet and challenge God for the job… make a vow to God in return if he (GOD) you the job.It is only God that can change the heart of any man. Your conscience will never forgive you if you go back to your past just because of a lucrative job. Resist it in totality and see how more opportunities will open for you.That temptation is really a massive one that will consume you if you subscribe to it.Remember your family is still far better than millions of families in the world…be contented of what you have and God will bless you with more.
Please don’t do it because it will be a continuous issue with blackmail
Don’t allow him to have sex with you.If it means losing that job, let it be so. God will still find you something to do so that you can manage to take care of your family. He just wants to abuse you.
What if you sleep with him and you don’t still get the job? then you loose together.
More so, getting the job through sleeping with him is adultery.Remember, Satan has no free gift, all he gives us for the exchange of the soul. Endure what you are passing through, and it shall come to pass and God will do something better. When the devil takes his silver, God will bring to you His gold.
Nobody is allowed under our laws to put such demand up as pre condition before a job applicant can be hired for a job. I advice you approach the Nigerian police and submit a petition to that effect. The police will guide you on how you should go about it to garner hard evidence to enable them do a perfect job in a manner that you will not only get the job,your ex boyfriend will be disciplined, and prosecuted for attempting to corrupt/destroy someone else family, honour, prestige, dignity and self worth etc
Do not give in to your ex request because your ex did not means well for you. Just seek God face for God makes away where there is no way. If falls into this temptation, one you will lost your integrity as a woman before man and God Almighty and things mighty even become more difficult for you and your family in future that’s if you even got the job.
Don’t fall for his trick it is not going to be only one session he is going to black mail you in future when you don’t give in to his demand.
He is going demand sex from everytime he feels like wanting to sleep with if u refuse he is gonna threaten you that he will tell ur husband he is going to make ur life a living hell. What guarantee do you have that it will be only one time session 🙆♀️ don’t take a risk please God will give u work that doesn’t have demands
Good luck