IREEN MY WIFE
Sikota Sitali wrote….
Ever since my wife (Ireen Malambo Sitali) died in a road accident last year as she was coming from work, i spend each night crying. Our laptop had a short video clip she sent to me when she travelled to work from UTH during COVID as she was a nurse. In the video she is saying “bye bye love, you are always in my heart” then it cuts. I often put it on repeat whilest am lying down next to the laptop. The first few weeks, i would cry intensly but nowadays tears just run down my chicks until i fall asleep. I dream about her everyday. I took 2 months leave from work so as to recover but this, our 4 year daughter and other objects in the house keep reminding me of her.
Ireen was a simple and soft spoken nurse whose voice soothed my military mindset. We rarely argued because we believed life was too short and behold it happened. Being a strong believer in Christ, i do believe Ireen is out there, somewhere, looking down on me and our daughter saying we will meet one day. If i could, i would want her to tell me how i am going to take care of a 4 year old girl who keeps aking me where her mum is and when exactly she will come back. Little Sara doesnt know that her beloved mum is never coming back. Am usually speechless even though i know i must say something.
Today am deleting the the video clip and going to live at mums’ place for a bit with my daugter Sara. Its a way to help me move on and hopfully Sara as well.
Until We See You Again, Continue Resting In Peace Ireen Malambo Sitali
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I have been there, but let go, time is a healer. For the sake of the girl. Its well, in good and bad we thank God. Let God be your comforter. I got widowed just a year after retirement
Please do not delete the video clip just kept it somewhere. May you be encouraged by women like Naomi who lived on and later God blessed them. You never know you may also inspire somebody to continue living. Sara needs you.slowly God will definitely heal you my brother. It is now twelve years since my husband died and five years later my son was killed while in the fourth year at the University. May God be with you.
It’s normaL to cry. In reality u were one and it’s normal to cry. My advice is, accept that she is no more. I am a widow and I went through such a situation too. Accept and pray that our Lord God Jehova comforts u. He is able. The truth is, u will never forget about her cos she was part of u. There is time for everything, time to be born and time to die. It’s all about life, though painful.
I mourn with you my dear brother as I know exactly were you are passing through. I was victim one time to be precise on 11th Msrch 2011. My boy was only five years. I was wondering why such a thing could happen to me.
My advice to you is that, only time will heal you my brother not even words of comfort.
Secondly, just cry when you feel like crying of course do it in the absence of your kids. It’s a process of healing.
My brother, bo Sikota, you made me cry too…. why, why, why you have been doing all this to yourself???
it’s not your fault. The Lord knows why He put her to sleep. In your writing you said, you know that she is up in heaven looking down on you two. what does that tell you???? it means she is in safest place right? I know it’s not easy but you HAVE TO MOVE ON WITH YOUR HAND IN CHRIST’S HAND. THAT IS THE ONLY WAY YOU WILL MAKE IT AND SEE SARA GET THROUGH TO MATURITY. otherwise you will die and leave her 100% orphan. who will look after her???????? Please, accept it since our God the creator Allowed it. For us to die is Christ and to live is Him.
By the way my dear, do you know that if you ask your wife to come back she may say no????? not because she does not want you but because she is, perhaps in better place than this earth. So worry not dear, only jacket is in that grave not her spirit.
TRUST IN THE THE HOLY SPIRIT. HE IS BY FAR THE GREATEST COMFORTER EVER GIVEN TO MAN.
My brother its not easy to loss the person you love most,especially the mother of yo children.but God is there fo you and the kid trust in him and accept that death is there.your child needs you now for the sake of your child pls mr satali be strong.may God the comforter see you through my brother
My Condolences precious brother and now my advice to you bro isn’t your wishes or something you dreamed about off that it was going to happen because intially you was thinking to be with your wife till you become old but eventually things turned ether way round you lost your beloved wife which of course you didn’t expected at that point 👉 in time! Now take it from me because it also happened to me in 2011. So here is the answer to the problem, the ways of a Man is totally different from the way God does things and allow such things like death to happen onto us at unexpected moment, it’s for the purpose we don’t know but him knows very well and it’s for our own good us remaining so that we can grow mentally and emotionally moreover and the most important one is to know him (Spiritually) and just by knowing him my precious brother you are saved. Amen and Amen God bless you always, in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ only.
Accept my condolences- my brother life is useless as the Bible has put it, believe, one day you shall meet your departed wife. As far now, focus on your daughter and make yourself happy always in order prolong life. Stay blessed, God bless
Bro.Sikota be strong life is full of ups and downs move on. You are lucky that Ireen is no more but at least you have something to celebrate her life the child.
I know how you feel but just put everything in God’s hand. may her soul rest in peace
Don’t worry bro! that damage has already been done Remember man kind know but God knows better.God willreplace to u a reincarnation and a more beautiful and forever loving spouse in herreplacement for u.
Bo Sikota losing someone who was your pillar is one of the worst tragedies in life.There are no words,books or verses enough to comfort you.Worse still there are no rehearsals on how to live life without the beloved partner.People tell you all sorts of comforting words and you will still remain alone without that irreplaceable dear person. You will experience her absence in so many aspects the love and care she gave you,her mentorship,her significance in the home for you and your daughter and just about so many things to mention and that is what makes it difficult to move on without her.Each time I was away from home she would call me ask are you okay?When I come back home she would ask how did you spend your time at work and receive what ever parcel I was bringing,Nowadays no one bothers where I am and how I spent my time. No love no care.I lost mine in June 2021 up to now it is like it has just happened.I always recorded calls on my handset and I always played those calls between us and it is playing a very comfortable and soothing role making me to believe she is still around although not physically.Bo do not rush the healing it will come gradually Because only you feel the loss of your wife and the terrible consequences on your life and future.Cry as much as you can watch her videos as nuch as you can think about her as much as you can she was so precious in your life and stolen from you just when you needed her the most.HEALING WILL COME WHEN THE TIME IS RIPE MAY GOD BLESS THE WIDOWERS
My brother, it is really painful to lose a spouse but you must accept the fact that death knocks at our doors unexpectedly, like a thief. But we have our only consoler, the Holy Spirit, whenever we are faced with such a calamity. You need to believe that death has no age group, it can strike anyone. What is important is to be prepared all the time and the best preparation is believing in God and living according to His commands.
My brother, it is really painful to lose a spouse but you must accept the fact that death knocks at our doors unexpectedly, like a thief. But we have our only consoler, the Holy Spirit, whenever we are faced with such a calamity. You need to believe that death has no age group, it can strike anyone. What is important is to be prepared all the time and the best preparation is believing in God and living according to His commands.