We have been in a relationship for a few months, and so far, everything has been incredibly positive. It’s almost surprising how quickly and strongly we’ve developed feelings for each other, and fortunately, she feels the same way. While we have had minor disagreements, we always manage to work through them without any issues. One aspect of our relationship that I truly value is our open and honest communication.
However, a recent conversation brought up the topic of her religious beliefs. She expressed her opinion that many individuals who claim to be Christian do not exemplify the values associated with true Christianity, and we had discussed this before, and I agreed with her.
Furthermore, she mentioned the concept of people going to hell for not accepting Christ and for being morally corrupt. It seemed as though she believed that I, too, would go to hell for not accepting Christ, so I asked her directly if she thought I was going to hell, and she answered affirmatively.
Until now, we had always respected each other’s beliefs, and she has been accepting of my non-religious stance despite the importance of her faith and church in her life. This particular revelation has deeply hurt me, and I’m not sure if I can easily overcome it.
In fact, I feel that it may be more difficult for me to move past this than if I had been cheated on. While she regrets her statement and acknowledges its impact on me, I am struggling significantly with this issue.
I’m questioning whether my reaction is excessive or justified. I would especially appreciate input from individuals who are not religious. Would you feel the same way in this situation or have you perhaps encountered something similar before? Could you continue a serious relationship with someone who believes you are destined for hell, especially if you envision a future together involving marriage and children?