I have two daughters, one who is 28 and the other who is 26 years old.
Our family used to be very happy, without any major problems. My ex-wife and I had stable incomes, and we provided our daughters with everything they needed, including sending them to a good private school.
We had a harmonious relationship, enjoyed family vacations, and everything seemed perfect. However, 11 years ago, my ex-wife cheated on me and left.
After three months, she expressed a desire to reconcile, but everyone advised me not to trust her as they believed she would cheat again.
During those three months, she completely cut off contact with me and our daughters. Although I still loved her deeply, I decided not to have her back in my life based on the advice I received, fearing that I would be hurt again.
At that time, my daughters were 17 and 15 years old. With my ex-wife gone, I had to leave my job since it required me to be away for several days a week. I found a low-paying job that allowed me to be home every day.
After my eldest daughter turned 18, she went to university, and I paid for her expensive tuition using my savings. However, within just two months, she seemed to cut me off completely without any specific reason. I initially understood that she needed time to adjust to her new life, but she completely shut me out.
I tried to meet and contact her, but she showed no interest. My younger daughter, though angry at her sister for not speaking to her either, maintained a normal relationship with me. However, when she joined university, she did the same thing and cut me off from her life as well.
These past years have been incredibly difficult for me. It was heartbreaking to experience my daughters doing the same thing to me that their own mother had done to them. Recently, I learned from someone that my younger daughter is living in terrible conditions.
I went to see her and discovered that she has become an addict and is even involved in prostitution. It was devastating to witness her in such a state, as she was once a bright student and a kind-hearted person. She is no longer in contact with her sister or her mother.
A few days ago, by chance, I bumped into my elder daughter at a store. I was overjoyed to see her after such a long time. She is doing well for herself, happily married with a child. She expressed happiness at seeing me too and mentioned that she is not in contact with her younger sister or her mother.
I shared the heartbreaking news about her younger sister’s situation, and she mentioned that she might go and visit her. She also invited me to her child’s upcoming birthday party, saying that her child would be happy to see me and get to know me.
I am currently feeling confused about why my daughters cut off contact with me and abandoned me without any explanation.
As a father, I did everything I could for them. I provided them with the best education, ensured they didn’t have the stress of student loans, and respected their personal space without intruding on their lives. Despite this, they ghosted me for years and showed no interest in meeting or maintaining a relationship.
Now, I am unsure about what to do next. Should I attend my granddaughter’s birthday party? Should I try to act normal and not discuss why my daughter cut me off? These questions weigh heavily on my mind as I seek guidance on how to navigate this complicated situation.
