Please help me. As I type I am so confused about what to do. I have been a loyal and respectful wife to my husband. Every rule he sets in this house, I adhere to them judiciously and ensure that he is satisfied. In our fifteen years of marriage, I have done nothing but love my husband and help him out. We only have one challenge which is giving birth.
Since we got married, we only have two kids. We have been trying to beget more children but all to no avail. When I first got married, I found it difficult to conceive. We went to different hospitals, met different gynaecologists and various doctors in different fields but the reply was the same. I was normal. My husband too was normal and functioned properly as a normal man should. We ran a full body check at different times and in different places but the answer remains the same.
After three years of staying married to him, I conceived and give birth to a lovely boy. I love him greatly and did everything within my powers to ensure he lacks nothing in life. I waited for two years before I tried conceiving again but it was another problem.
After seven years of giving birth to my first son, God blessed me with a girl and that was the last child I had. Since then, conceiving has been a big issue for me. I have been trying and trying but all to no avail. My husband on the other hand has been so nonchalant about our kids. Every time I plead with him to take his health seriously or go for medical check ups, he neglects me. Regardless of everything, I have still been a loyal wife and have raised our children with love and care.
Although I know that my husband isn’t someone to show his love that much, I always believed that he loved me and would never do anything to hurt me. That was what I thought until three weeks ago. I found out that my husband was having an affair with someone. I was very sad when I heard about it.
As if the blow was not enough, I found out that the girl he was having an affair with was pregnant. I haven’t been able to put myself together since then. Regardless of all my tears and questions, my husband has said almost nothing to me and I am beginning to lose it. What have I done to deserve this kind of punishment? Have I not been a good wife? Have I not loved him well all these years we have been together? Why has he decided to embarrass me this way? He has not even given me any explanation yet and that pisses me off.
The girl he got pregnant is just a 21 year old girl that just got into school. Of all people to have an affair with, he chose a 21 year old girl, a teenager. I feel so ashamed. The girl’s parents have been coming to my house to make trouble. I don’t know what else to do. My neighbors are beginning to gossip about it and my husband is doing absolutely nothing. I don’t know what his plans are.
He is not saying anything no matter how much I disturb him. I have decided to tell his parents and my parents about this but I don’t know if it is a good idea. I don’t know how he will receive it but he has left me with no other options. I want to hear from you all on what I should do. Should I just fold my arms and watch him or should I tell our parents? Is there a better suggestion? Please help me.