Please help me. As I type I am so confused about what to do. I have been a loyal and respectful wife to my husband. Every rule he sets in this house, I adhere to them judiciously and ensure that he is satisfied. In our fifteen years of marriage, I have done nothing but love my husband and help him out. We only have one challenge which is giving birth.
Since we got married, we only have two kids. We have been trying to beget more children but all to no avail. When I first got married, I found it difficult to conceive. We went to different hospitals, met different gynaecologists and various doctors in different fields but the reply was the same. I was normal. My husband too was normal and functioned properly as a normal man should. We ran a full body check at different times and in different places but the answer remains the same.
After three years of staying married to him, I conceived and give birth to a lovely boy. I love him greatly and did everything within my powers to ensure he lacks nothing in life. I waited for two years before I tried conceiving again but it was another problem.
After seven years of giving birth to my first son, God blessed me with a girl and that was the last child I had. Since then, conceiving has been a big issue for me. I have been trying and trying but all to no avail. My husband on the other hand has been so nonchalant about our kids. Every time I plead with him to take his health seriously or go for medical check ups, he neglects me. Regardless of everything, I have still been a loyal wife and have raised our children with love and care.
Although I know that my husband isn’t someone to show his love that much, I always believed that he loved me and would never do anything to hurt me. That was what I thought until three weeks ago. I found out that my husband was having an affair with someone. I was very sad when I heard about it.
As if the blow was not enough, I found out that the girl he was having an affair with was pregnant. I haven’t been able to put myself together since then. Regardless of all my tears and questions, my husband has said almost nothing to me and I am beginning to lose it. What have I done to deserve this kind of punishment? Have I not been a good wife? Have I not loved him well all these years we have been together? Why has he decided to embarrass me this way? He has not even given me any explanation yet and that pisses me off.
The girl he got pregnant is just a 21 year old girl that just got into school. Of all people to have an affair with, he chose a 21 year old girl, a teenager. I feel so ashamed. The girl’s parents have been coming to my house to make trouble. I don’t know what else to do. My neighbors are beginning to gossip about it and my husband is doing absolutely nothing. I don’t know what his plans are.
He is not saying anything no matter how much I disturb him. I have decided to tell his parents and my parents about this but I don’t know if it is a good idea. I don’t know how he will receive it but he has left me with no other options. I want to hear from you all on what I should do. Should I just fold my arms and watch him or should I tell our parents? Is there a better suggestion? Please help me.
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It is very sad, Just hold yourself very well, it was an intentional act, focus on your kids, leave your hubby to decide his faith with his concubines.
Go and inform,your parents,before, taken, any,dicission,
Keep it to ur self let karma do his work
Just pray and be strong it’s hard bt God knows and He knows that u a strong woman
Let him realize that the result is no longer new,and don’t bother yourself about your husband,try to face your children, they are your tommorow
My sister, you better thank God that you are still around the house. But be careful not to fight or go into immorality. If you believe in Jesus, be patient and ask God for mercy on his behalf especially if you really know that you love him. Thus, the word for you now is WAIT & PRAY.
Pls if u truly love ur husband, I beg u in the name of Christ, forgive him and move on with ur marrieg. He did not sent u out of the house, and his taking care of all ur needs, just let him be.
with in no due time his going to marry that girl it’s just a matter of time.The only solution is a deep prayer with fasting God will show you the way out.Be patient an dont try to solve his problem He is old enough to take responsibility.
I personally believe that you don’t need to punish urself about you have not been told about, take it cool and just look up for children ,I believe if the time comes he will come to you and apologise to you ,this is the time you have to give him ur support for him to realise ur potentials as a good woman or a good wife, I think that will bring him back to you and it will make him a better husband to you in the near future.
Just keep on loving your husband the other woman has no place in your home she’s a thief.he will come around.
Hello madam. For as long as he has not said anything please hold your breath because you might put yourself into big trouble. Am sure one day he will open up to you. Never compet with a man madam keep on staying more and more royal.
Tell your parents leave him or kick him out and move on with your children don’t punish yourself more get a divorce go to court and settle the matter for him to pay maintenance
A man broke window from a marriage woman room and ran for his life after he was cut bedding with her by the husband
My sister, your marriage will never ever work. I was once in that situation. We divorced and he married the girl. He’s now dead cause the lady killed him. You must also watch out cause the lady might also influence the husband to kill you or your kids.
My sister remember that God knows what is best for you. As for now just keep quiet and wait patiently. God will reveal what is in the heart of your husband. Pray like never before. UV
Pray that God should end the relationship he has with the lady and don’t tell his parents cos they will support him and tagged you a bad woman
Take it
Pray over it and be strong and sit down with him talk about it,never fight nor kill your husband. He probably needed more children that why he went out of the wedlock to shear them.
It’s a very unfortunate situation your in however you need to gather courage and ask him before you go out there talking to your parents or his parents.Also, if you are a Christian seek God and pray about it for direction with your trusted prayer partner. God is in control
Divorce him. He is not worthy of you. There are men who would kill to have a wife like you. He has no respect towards you and your children. If you stay with him, you will always have to share him because he has 2 women in his life. It’s unfair you get to have half of him but he gets to have the whole you.
Just because he has a penus don’t make him a real man!
Divorce him. He is not worthy of you. There are men who would kill to have a wife like you. He has no respect towards you and your children. If you stay with him, you will always have to share him because he has 2 women in his life. It’s unfair you get to have half of him but he gets to have the whole you.
Just because he has a penus don’t make him a real man!
And put viagra in his drink. And when he is horny don’t have sexl with him. Let him suffer. He must feel what he did to you.
When you dump him, kick him in the Balls! He should know better than to take advantage of teenagers!
Whatever your husb did plse do not confront him or decide to move away from the matrimonial home Even if your man brings in the girl he impregnated remain there with your children but out of all pour your heart to Jehovah God-Ron 10:13